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this is me and sylv’s FIRST PHOTO 2GETHR since drag ball 2010. are u jealous???! (at Linda’s)
so last night I saw perfect pussy and joanna gruesome and it was cool but there were a bunch of like 30+ year old men trying to start pits and just generally being sort of aggressive, and at one point during joanna gruesome’s set, a girl got hit and had to leave because of the guys who were pushing everyone around. in general, I don’t really like moshing in a lot of contexts because it ends up making a lot of people uncomfortable or actually hurting people. I understand in certain spaces it can be cathartic or “fun” like when everyone is into it and it isn’t putting non-consenting people in danger, but it is especially frustrating when males feel entitled to the space and push people around. Alanna McArdle of joanna gruesome got really upset about half way through her set because of what had happened with the girl leaving and it was weird and disappointing to see how universal the ‘big older dudes pushing people around at shows’ thing is. I don’t mean to imply that a women in general can’t handle themselves at shows, because so many can and do, but a lot of women, including me, really just don’t like to be involved in moshing. I feel like when there is a woman musician playing, it’s especially important to show respect for other women in the audience who may feel uncomfortable at shows with mostly dudes or have a particularly strong connection to the music because of their gender. it’s really special to a lot of girls to see other girls succeeding and when I saw that the pit was almost entirely meatjock dudes during perfect pussy’s set, it was a bit disheartening, because they were taking space away from women who may have wanted to be closer to the front or to be able to not worry about getting hit. like y’all are paying to share a space and share an experience, so it’s so imperative to consider who else is around you and what boundaries you should be respecting. I’d love to hear some thoughts on this from people if you have anything to add/criticize, I’m just reflecting on The State of Things
this is good and true and right
i saw vexx in olympia last november and for their last song maryjane asked “girls and queer folks and rad dudes” (her exact words as i remember) to come to the front. i had been up front for the whole time but a TON OF BIG DUDES got up front and basically shoved me back. clara tried to get up front with me also and she got pushed back too. y’all, this shit is fucked. it is important to keep in mind that some spaces are NOT FOR YOU if you have any kind of privilege.
i like moshing and i grew up moshing and i will mosh if there is a pit full of consenting people and i do my best to be respectful of those who aren’t into experiencing music in that way. a lot of people go to shows to watch the set and when there are like three people moshing you’re distracted from the performance because you’re trying to protect your physical self and your friends from people who are being assholes. i find that i am doing this at at least half the shows i go to. these people, and they are ALWAYS young white men, ALWAYS without exception, are just pulling the most narcissistic fucking loser self-centered bullshit. “i don’t care if other people are having fun / feeling safe at this event we all paid to go to, because i am having fun.” then again what else should i expect from young white men.
alsooooo - punk can and should be a place where oppressed people feel safe sharing their experiences. if you’re a bro and you go to a show headlined by two feminist punk bands to mosh aggressively and shove women out of the front as women perform art about their experiences and about their feminist anger, you’re a fucking asshole, period, and fuck you. thanks
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